{"id":8486,"date":"2020-10-05T07:43:19","date_gmt":"2020-10-05T11:43:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?p=8486"},"modified":"2020-10-05T07:50:52","modified_gmt":"2020-10-05T11:50:52","slug":"build-emotional-strength-expand-your-brain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?p=8486","title":{"rendered":"Build Emotional Strength, Expand Your Brain"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<header class=\"css-n7i3yu euiyums2\">\n<div class=\"css-186x18t\">\n<p class=\"css-tsacue e6idgb70\">\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-79elbk\" data-testid=\"photoviewer-wrapper\">\n<div class=\"css-1a48zt4 ehw59r15\" data-testid=\"photoviewer-children\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/header>\n<\/div>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=3394\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-3394\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3394\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=3394\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?fit=1202%2C1056&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1202,1056\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"the-new-york-times logo\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?fit=300%2C263&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?fit=640%2C562&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-3394 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?resize=150%2C150&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?resize=50%2C50&amp;ssl=1 50w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?zoom=2&amp;resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/the-new-york-times-logo.jpg?zoom=3&amp;resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>Eight years ago, while working as an assistant Cuyahoga County prosecutor in Cleveland, Gayle Williams-Byers was in the throes of a serial killer case when she decided to take horseback-riding lessons.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">This summer, in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic,\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/gayle-williams-byers-a596216\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Ms. Williams-Byers<\/a>, 46, now a South Euclid Municipal Court judge, started free online classes in American Sign Language offered by Gallaudet University in Washington. She also took a webinar in labor trafficking. In recent years, she has enrolled in a variety of classes and workshops, including one on how to get a commercial driver\u2019s license \u2014 not something she plans to act on any time soon.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">\u201cI don\u2019t have a reason to use these things in my professional life, but learning helps me to focus better,\u201d Ms. Williams-Byers said. \u201cIt\u2019s also something that I have some control over. I take classes in subjects I am just wildly interested in learning about it. When I expand my brain, my wingspan is greater. It lets you get a little higher, to get above the headwinds.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Read on<strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2020\/09\/02\/health\/resilience-learning-building-skills.html\">The New York Times<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Ms. Williams-Byers\u2019 quest to understand something new is an example of what many career coaches, authors and experts view as a key factor to building the resilience necessary to weather setbacks and navigate life&#8217;s volatilty.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_8487\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-8487\" style=\"width: 150px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8487\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8487\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"8487\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8487\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/simon.jpeg?fit=183%2C275&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"183,275\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"simon\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Simon Sinek, photo courtesy of website&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/simon.jpeg?fit=183%2C275&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/simon.jpeg?fit=183%2C275&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"wp-image-8487 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/simon.jpeg?resize=150%2C150&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-8487\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Simon Sinek, photo courtesy of website<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">The theory: To deal effectively with change, it helps to be engaged in changing yourself. \u201cOne of the things that makes us resilient is that when we see a challenge, and when we face a struggle, we engage with it, rather than shut down,\u201d said\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/simonsinek.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Simon Sinek,<\/a>\u00a0author of \u201cThe Infinite Game\u201d and \u201cStart With Why.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">\u201cWhat I have learned from my career is that something I learned over here helps me over there,\u201d he said. \u201cEven if I don\u2019t know that is happening, any kind of learning benefits all aspects of life.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"link-549ef8eb\" class=\"css-e307km e1gnsphs0\">Embrace Your Passions<\/h3>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Mr. Sinek, for instance, is a dance lover. \u201cMy dancer friends kept telling me I should take classes, and it would help me and my love of the medium. I begrudgingly agreed, and I took some basic ballet classes.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Even though it was for personal enrichment, those classes helped his developing work as a public speaker. \u201cMy posture is much better,\u201d he said. \u201cI move more effortlessly across the stage from my hips, instead of my shoulders.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\">\n<div id=\"c-col-editors-picks\" class=\"css-j64t31\">\n<figure id=\"attachment_8488\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-8488\" style=\"width: 150px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8488\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8488\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"8488\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8488\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?fit=500%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"500,500\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Dorie Clark, photo courtesy of website&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?fit=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?fit=500%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"wp-image-8488 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?resize=150%2C150&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Dorie-Clark-landscape-headshot-500px.jpg?w=500&amp;ssl=1 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-8488\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Dorie Clark, photo courtesy of website<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">When you\u2019re in the process of learning, your viewpoint changes, and you spot connections that you never noticed before. \u201cResilience is about being adaptable in a variety of different circumstances,\u201d said <\/span><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/dorieclark.com\/about\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Dorie Clark<\/a><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">, who teaches executive education at Duke University\u2019s Fuqua School of Business and is the author of \u201cReinventing You.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-size: inherit;\">\u201cIt is a combination of being able to pick yourself up when there are setbacks, but also it is about having the kind of cross-training necessary to be flexible in an uncertain world where we don\u2019t know what is around the corner,\u201d Ms. Clark said.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h3 id=\"link-75f1cbd5\" class=\"css-e307km e1gnsphs0\">Learning Requires Determination<\/h3>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">This all may require pushing yourself \u2014 not the easiest of tasks in times of crisis. \u201cIf they are relatively senior professionals, it has been years, or decades, since they have not been good at something, and it can be enormously psychologically stressful to have to face that,\u201d Ms. Clark said. \u201cInevitably, when you are in the early stages of learning something you haven\u2019t done before, you are probably going to be bad at it \u2014 at least not very good.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Two years ago, Ms. Clark entered a program to train as a musical theater lyricist. \u201cPeople in this program have master\u2019s degrees in musical theater writing,\u201d she said. \u201cAt first, having to surround myself with people who truly had exponentially more expertise was humiliating on a regular basis, but it was invigorating and inspiring.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"link-3bcb5358\" class=\"css-e307km e1gnsphs0\">Stay Curious<\/h3>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Being resilient has a lot to do with perspective. \u201cPeople who commit themselves to a life of learning show up with curiosity,\u201d Mr. Sinek said. \u201cThey show up with interest. They show up with a student\u2019s mind-set. You don\u2019t have to be curious about everything. You have to be curious about some things.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_8489\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-8489\" style=\"width: 150px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8489\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8489\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"8489\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8489\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/bev.jpeg?fit=228%2C221&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"228,221\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"bev\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Beverly Jones, photo courtesy of Clearways Consulting website&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/bev.jpeg?fit=228%2C221&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/bev.jpeg?fit=228%2C221&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-8489\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/bev.jpeg?resize=150%2C150&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-8489\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Beverly Jones, photo courtesy of Clearways Consulting website<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Those who routinely and consciously engage in learning become more confident about their ability to figure things out once a crisis hits, according to\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.clearwaysconsulting.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Beverly Jones<\/a>, an executive career coach and author of \u201cThink Like an Entrepreneur, Act Like A CEO.\u201d \u201cEach time they hit a bump, they spend less time lamenting and quickly turn to determining what they must learn in order to climb out of the hole,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Moreover, l<\/span><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">earners develop a more optimistic mind-set, which helps them jump into action, according to Ms. Jones. \u201cIn part, this is because each time you become aware of learning something new it feels like a victory,\u201d Ms. Jones said. \u201cYou maintain the positivity that is a key to resilience.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"story-ad-3-wrapper\" class=\"css-1r07izm\">\n<h3>\u00a0<strong><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Tailor Your Learning<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">An important element to remember is that people learn in different ways, Mr. Sinek said. \u201cI can\u2019t read a book a week. I learn by having conversations. I like talking to people who know more than me about any particular subject. I love peppering them with questions. And I love trying to say back in my own words what I think they are telling me to see if I understand it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Right now, with his speaking engagements on hold, Mr. Sinek is studying kintsugi, the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with epoxy and a painted gold solution, which highlights the breaks. The concept: By accepting blemishes and flaws, you can produce an even sturdier, more striking, piece of art. On a deeper level, it functions as a symbol of the human experience.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">For one thing, it requires patience. \u201cIt turns out the epoxy dries slowly,\u201d Mr. Sinek said. \u201cIf you do all the pieces at once, it all just falls apart again. I want to be done with my project and move on to the next. I can\u2019t. I have to stick one piece and hold it for an uncomfortable amount of time and then let sit for 24 hours.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">There are myriad paths to learning from taking part in a free online class to reading a nonfiction book to watching a documentary to a complete immersion in a grade-free educational experience.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_8490\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-8490\" style=\"width: 150px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8490\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8490\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"8490\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=8490\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/chip.jpeg?fit=276%2C183&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"276,183\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Chip Conley, photo courtesy of website&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/chip.jpeg?fit=276%2C183&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/chip.jpeg?fit=276%2C183&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"wp-image-8490 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/chip.jpeg?resize=150%2C150&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-8490\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Chip Conley, photo courtesy of website<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/chipconley.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Chip Conley<\/a>, 59, for example, founded the Modern Elder Academy<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.modernelderacademy.com\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">,<\/a>\u00a0in Baja, Mexico, a group dedicated to midlife learning.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">The academy\u2019s core curriculum is based on helping people move from a fixed to a growth mind-set in midlife and beyond, according to Mr. Conley. \u201cThose with a fixed mind-set define success as winning, which becomes problematic when they face difficult circumstances,\u201d he said. \u201cThose with a growth mind-set define success as learning. They\u2019re not trying to prove themselves, but instead improve themselves, so they get less focused on the results and more focused on the journey.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">At the academy, options include collaborative bread baking, improv comedy, learning how to surf or do yoga for the first time and penning a poem to offer to your cohort.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><strong>Academic and Online Options<\/strong><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">There are also educational opportunities for nontraditional students at some top universities through academic or yearlong\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2018\/04\/05\/education\/learning\/retraining-new-career.html\">programs<\/a>\u00a0for executives and other professionals. Students can audit classes, attend lectures, and work on projects with graduate and undergraduate students.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">These include the\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/dci.stanford.edu\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Stanford Distinguished Careers Institute<\/a>, Harvard\u2019s\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/advancedleadership.harvard.edu\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Advanced Leadership Initiative<\/a>, the University of Notre Dame\u2019s\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/ili.nd.edu\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Inspired Leadership Initiative<\/a>, the University of Minnesota\u2019s\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/umac.umn.edu\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Advanced Careers Initiative<\/a>, and the University of Texas at Austin, which offers the\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/towerfellows.utexas.edu\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Tower Fellows Program<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">Three years ago, Glenn Lowenstein, 60, was ready for a new challenge. The Houston resident had sold Lionstone Investments, the real estate investment company he founded in 2001, to Ameriprise. \u201cIt was a hard decision,\u201d he said. \u201cThe business had been my dream, and then I lived the reality of it for 20 years, and all of a sudden there was a void. It was scary. When there is nothing in front of you, that\u2019s where the resiliency has to come in.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">His solution was to return to campus. Two years ago, he was a Towers fellow. \u201cYou have to put yourself out there in an environment you have not been in before,\u201d he said. \u201cIt\u2019s a combination of confidence in yourself, enjoyment in exploration and going toward your fear.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">As a fellow, Mr. Lowenstein, for example, enrolled in an advanced graduate philosophy seminar. \u201cIt was way above my head,\u201d he said. \u201cI would try my hardest to follow every single word of the conversation. It was fascinating to me the way the graduate students articulated their arguments. It was super esoteric stuff, but I would walk out and be \u2018wow, I am learning a new way to communicate here.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">The best part, though, was his time on campus: \u201cIt was so cool to be in an environment where I wasn\u2019t the expert,\u201d he said. \u201cI wasn\u2019t the person relied on to know everything, so I could sit back and enjoy the process of learning, and that\u2019s positive energy. My aim is to keep my mind and body and spirit healthy. I don\u2019t think you can do that without learning.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">For those who can\u2019t afford the time or money required for a high-level fellowship or university program, there are myriad paths to learning. Free or reasonably priced online classes are available through sites like\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/coursera.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Coursera<\/a>,<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.edx.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">\u00a0EdX,<\/a>\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thegreatcourses.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The Great Courses<\/a>,\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/learning\/subscription\/paid?&amp;src=go-pa&amp;veh=sem_src.go-pa_c.ggl-lil-sem-b2c-brand-dr-namer-us-lang-en-biz-alpha-desktop-core-lilbrand_pkw.linkedin%20learning_pmt.e_pcrid.343926466304_pdv.c_plc._trg._net.g_learning&amp;trk=sem_src.go-pa_c.ggl-lil-sem-b2c-brand-dr-namer-us-lang-en-biz-alpha-desktop-core-lilbrand_pkw.linkedin%20learning_pmt.e_pcrid.343926466304_pdv.c_plc._trg._net.g_learning&amp;mcid=6626616148786065462&amp;cname=&amp;camid=664286762&amp;asid=37446315521&amp;targetid=kwd-47311766595&amp;crid=343926466304&amp;placement=&amp;dev=c&amp;ends=1&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjwyo36BRAXEiwA24CwGSQoC_hefNeu5rj42izLrNUnlSvFfqb1v-lLb3x7sLkKxSoF3HdFbxoCzHkQAvD_BwE&amp;gclsrc=aw.ds\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">LinkedIn Learning<\/a>,\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.masterclass.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">MasterClass<\/a>,\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.skillshare.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Skillshare,<\/a>\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">TED Talks<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.udemy.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Udem<\/a>y.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"><\/aside>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"story-ad-5-wrapper\" class=\"css-1r07izm\">\n<div id=\"story-ad-5-slug\" class=\"css-l9onyx\">\u00a0<span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Other options (online these days) include adult education centers, local libraries, community colleges and universities, and <\/span><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/www.osherfoundation.org\/index.php?olli\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Osher Lifelong Learning Institutes<\/a><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">.\u00a0<\/span><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.onedayu.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">One Day University<\/a><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">, a subscription service ($7.95 a month), offers five livestreaming lectures a week and recorded talks.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">For Ms. Williams-Byers, learning is \u201cthat extra oomph to turn off the crazy in life and pour yourself into something that is fantastic that you can benefit from,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\">That explains her decision to take up a new sport during a particularly difficult case. \u201cI had dealt with murder cases before, but this was unsettling,\u201d she said. \u201cI could feel myself disconnecting from the case because of the emotional drain. The hourlong lessons refocused my mind, so I could bounce back when I returned to the office.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">This article is part of\u00a0<\/em><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/spotlight\/resilience\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">a series on resilience<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">\u00a0in troubled times \u2014 what we can learn about it from history and personal experiences.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"><\/aside>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"related-links-block css-4tjktq epkadsg3\">\n<figure id=\"attachment_7907\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-7907\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=7907\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-7907\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"7907\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\/?attachment_id=7907\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?fit=960%2C960&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"960,960\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"ME\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Kerry Hannon, photo by Photopia, Elizabeth Dranitzke&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?fit=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?fit=640%2C640&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"wp-image-7907 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?resize=300%2C300&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryhannon.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/ME.jpg?w=960&amp;ssl=1 960w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-7907\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Kerry Hannon, photo by Photopia, Elizabeth Dranitzke<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>By <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/kerryhannon.com\"><span class=\"css-1baulvz last-byline\">Kerry Hannon<\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/section>\n<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; 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