It’s essential to have zones where you can focus on intimacy and leave stress-causing topics behind, says Pepper Schwartz, a relationships expert with AARP’s Life Reimagined, an online resource to help people navigate life transitions.
“You need to be sure you make time and space for yourselves as a couple, and also time as individuals to do yoga or meet friends or do something for yourself, so you don’t end up working a 7-day week and feeling like you’ve lost yourself,” she says.
CONSIDER ALTERNATIVES TO HOME
Many people who work from home are turning to various kinds of shared workspaces.
“Sometimes there are just too many distractions at home. It’s like going to the gym to exercise. You could exercise at home, but if you get yourself to the gym, you know you’re going to exercise,” says Parisi.
Like many shared office spaces, her Paragraph is divided into quiet workspaces and a shared social area. Because it is specialized by field, Paragraph also sponsors readings and visits by agents.
While some shared workspaces around the country cater specifically to start-ups or other types of businesses, others are more general and welcome people from various fields.
“It’s important to make a policy about how you share the practical tasks or take care of the kids or walk the dogs,” says Schwartz.
Hannon said she had to compromise at times when her husband set up his workspace at the dining-room table instead of in his home office. Parisi said she or her husband sometimes ended up heading off to Paragraph to work when doing so at home seemed too challenging.
“Anecdotally, the whole economy is moving in this direction. We’re so plugged in now that even if you work from an office, you’ll end up doing some of your work from home,” Leibovich says. “It may take some creativity, and some compromises, to get it right.”